Someone to Talk To

Maybe you didn’t hear, but this week the Chopra Center in Carlsbad, CA, was hosting a Global Meditation for Compassion. Chopra touted the event would be live-streamed to over half a million people in more than a hundred countries, and the intent was to shift the collective consciousness of the world toward compassion.

A highly laudable effort, but what really caught my attention was a sentence in the advertisement for the event that said “In today’s society, where one in every four people feels that they have no one to talk to if they are in pain or suffering, and a large number feel disconnected from those around them…” ONE IN FOUR!

In this more-than-ever-technically-connected world, virtually every typical-sized family has someone who feels they have nobody they can turn to. Nobody in whom they can confide. No one there for them. Technology can help with a lot of aspects of our daily lives, but it cannot replace human interaction. Nothing can, other than, well, human interaction.

In my practice at Skipnotherapy, almost daily I hear versions of this same theme. A client may not come right out and say ‘they have no one to talk to,’ but they allude to it – couch it in different terms. “My husband doesn’t understand,” or “It’s hard to make this change by myself,” or “The responsibility to make this change at work falls on my shoulders.” No matter the words, the lack of support or connection or interaction often leads to a negative result – anxiety, sadness, depression, shame, distrust, anger, or loneliness to name a few. And sadly, many of those people blame themselves for their resulting emotions. They hear so often that they are responsible for the way they feel. “Buck up,” they hear. “Stop the pity party,” they are told.

But what if extroversion is not your default mode? What if you lack the confidence, the ego-strength, or the downright courage to open up to someone about what’s bothering you? Then your problem continues, deepens, and can lead to even deeper and maybe permanent-feeling emotional damage.

I often work with clients who, when I ask for their e-mail address for my records, tell me they have no e-mail, or computer, or smart phone. I wonder how they make it in this very technical world. So many businesses these days require an e-mail address to deal with you. Everyone wants us to go ‘paperless.’ How stressful and dis-empowering it must be for those folks to feel like they are an unworthy or antiquated member of society – and how lonely.

In a world that changes SO fast, where a significant part of the population feels left out, I feel blessed to be able to help people make a change that affects their lives in a positive manner. I know I am lucky in that respect, and lucky to be able to give back to the world in some, small way!

If you or someone you care about needs to make a change to the way they feel, or to their self-confidence or self-worth, or to reduce their anxiety, consider hypnotherapy where a change to the programming of the subconscious mind can be amazing! Find out more at www.skipnotherapy.com.